Stepson trying to sleep with my daughter

Dear Pastor,

I am living with a woman. I have a 16-year- old daughter who is also living with us. This woman is older than I. She has a son, who is in his 20s. He does not live with us, but he sleeps at our house occasionally.

I don’t have any objection to him coming here because it is a three-bedroom dwelling. The house really belongs to my parents, but they are not living in Jamaica, so I could call this place mine. My father told me that my mother does not have any desire to come back to Jamaica, but he loves Jamaica more than America. He does not wish for my mother to pass on, but if she does before him, he will return to Jamaica.

He expects me to take care of the house.

My woman’s son approached my daughter for sex and she turned him down. After being turned down, he offered her money and she told him that she has never taken money from any man, except her father. She mentioned it to me and I spoke to him about it. He said he was only joking. I told him he should not run that type of joke with my daughter.

When I spoke to his mother about it, she said he was only joking so I should not take it that seriously. I told her I would not want him to come to the house and have sex with my daughter, so she should please tell him not to come back to the house. His mother was so upset with me and cursed me off. She told me that I should be prepared for anything to happen to my daughter as she will not be able to close up her legs every day. She said that some man, whether I like it or not, will open my daughter’s legs.

I did not expect her to speak to me that way just because my daughter refused to have sex with her son.

Pastor, my daughter is really trying. I have a son, but I don’t know where he is. He does not contact me. My daughter is the only one that I can really call my own, and I have to protect her. Because I told this woman that she should tell her son not to come back to my place, she was abusive to me. I told my daughter to continue to show respect to my lady, but even when my daughter says hello to her, she hardly answers.

Was I wrong to tell her that I do not want her son not to come back to the house?

S

Dear S.,

You are not wrong in telling his mother to tell him not to return to the house, unless both of you are present at the house. You have a right to protect your daughter. The way your woman is behaving should tell you that she does not have good character. It was not necessary for her to tell you that one day a man will open your daughter’s legs.

There are certain things that are not necessary to say. If a man gets your daughter to open her legs, it should not be her son. You are already with his mother, so there is no need for him to be with your daughter.

Pastor